In the Indian subcontinent, where men are deemed akin to GODS (albeit the powers and robes), there is an association of freedom of the right of expression that is naturally and subconsciously granted to this superior race. Men can dance unselfconsciously; but it depends on the place, the economic prosperity that a place enjoys. In our economy, where men are less bound to scrutiny, there is an outward display of exhilaration in the awkward dance steps that may put most of us women at a loss of words. As the sense of community changes, it makes men more conscious and with more money and technology, comes more restraint. There is less congregation and lesser communication, hence less occasion to dance, or probably exhibit any signs of inner peace and happiness.
In our world, we have come to associate men with certain hackneyed and hypocritical notions that put the entire idea in a box, devoid of any wish to perhaps cut it out and re-envision its dimensions. Dancing like a man has also got to do with classical dance traditions. Women are epitomes of grace and feel that dancing is shoe that probably fits their feet better than most men. Men face more controversy and hostility while participating in such fields. It is rather ironical, since it is in this very ‘glorious’ country, the land of paradox, that the conception of ARDHANARESHWAR, the DUALITY OF MEN AND WOMEN in each of us, was visualized and to an extent, idolized in the form of deities forming a whole, through two separate halves. It is in this argument that we need to tie ours roots. To wholly accept our duality and strength, we need to be in sync with our other side. In this epoch of equality, we need to think like a man, as well as a woman, to attain success.
We have been brought up with stereotypical ideas in our so-called patriarchal society, but today, Youth can probably approach different ideas and sentiments; accept transition more effectively and wholeheartedly than our older generations. This is imminent to a positive change in outlook, which is the need of the hour. Movies like MARDAANI, set to the backdrop of our country brings to the eye one pertinent question. Do women need to assert themselves like men to be known to have strength and resilience? This is precisely where our mentality lies. We bracket together strength and masculinity; men are the protectors of women; men for the field and women for the hearth; sadly these are the dark times where our modernity comes to face our redundant mindsets. Women leaders were always ‘supposed’ to be in the dark, present in the society by default; it was a sympathy wave that led them to the front. What they weren’t taught was how to preserve their position as leaders. Women in the corporate world have often had to compromise to stay there. we’ve turned a blind eye to the hypocrisy we display when it comes to granting women the rights, as opposed to protesting for the same. The upper rung of the ladder isn’t reserved for the ‘manly’ men to handle.
We have our set boxes of stereotypes that need to be shattered. It breeds insecurity, which is an attribute and a trigger to our actions and emotions. Insecurity is also a pre-requisite of development which guides us to realise that something deep down needs a dose of clarification. We need to start with our own homes and break the mould that divides men into strong boys and sissies, which to me is quite derogatory and an unacceptable way to deter outward display of emotions by men, since apparently, men aren’t supposed to cry! men who cry are not sissies. They are sensible emotional individuals with complete right to express emotional outbursts as we women have been licensed to. Men who can embrace their feminity can easily mould the world and transform lives; make a deeper impact against the present degenerating ideas of masculinity.
We need men who can dance.